Issue 013: Today was a good day!

A lot of people think visualization is about standing in front of the mirror and pretending you already have the car, the body, the money, or the success.

But sometimes visualization can be much more human than that.

I was thinking about Ice Cube’s Good Day. I’m not a huge fan of Rap, but I’ve always loved that song.

What made that song resonate wasn’t just the details of the day itself. It was the feeling of it. A day where things flowed. A day where life felt good in your body. A day where you were fully in it. Present. Relaxed. Alive. Free.

Visualization, at its best, is about getting honest. It is about seeing clearly what you actually want your life to feel like.

Not just what you want to own. Not just what you want people to think about you or what you think might sound impressive. But the rhythm of your days. The energy in your home. The way you move through the world. The people beside you. The kind of work you get to do. The kind of love you get to experience.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about my perfect day. Not because I expect every day to look like this. Not because life is supposed to be fantasy. But because when you can describe your perfect day in detail, you start to understand what you’re actually building toward.

And maybe more importantly… You start to see what’s missing from your life right now. Or even more importantly. What can be removed from your life.

My perfect day looks something like this

I wake up at 4:30. Stretch. Wake up fully.

I wake my son and daughter with a hug and a kiss and tell them how proud I am of them. We hop in the golf cart and ride to the gym together. We train. We laugh. We start the day strong.

After that, we head to the north marina of our island to watch the sunrise. We put the paddle boards in the water and do yoga on the boards while the sky starts lighting up.

The kind of morning that makes you stop and think, how is any of this real?

Then back home. I kiss my wife. Shower outside in the backyard. Cold plunge. Breathing. Sauna. Meditation. Visualization.

No rushing. No chaos. No phone in my face. No frantic start.

Then I make an amazing breakfast for my wife and kids. Best coffee you can find anywhere.

The kids move through the kitchen getting ready for their day. There’s conversation. There’s warmth. There’s no tension in the house.

Glo and I eat outside together on the patio, watching the birds. Then I get to work.

Music on. Deep focus. Working like I’m possessed on the thing that matters most. No emails, no meetings. Just creative output. Real work.

At lunch, Glo and I ride to the club. She goes to do her thing. I walk 9 holes on the golf course with my best friend. I take a work call or two. My friend has heard all my stories. He doesn’t mind.

Then home. Clean up. A little more work. Checking in on my assistants. Keeping the machine moving without being owned by it.

That evening we go to dinner together as a family. Then down to the south marina for sunset on the paddle boards.

The day slows down again. The sky changes. We enjoy a glass of wine on the water. Completely present and full of gratitude.

After that, pickleball with friends. Laughter. Competition. Movement. Life.

Then home. A nightcap in the hot tub. Deep connection with my wife. Passion. Exhaustion. Peace. Then we sleep, completely content. No noise in my head. No regrets. Nothing to escape from.

Why this matters

When I look at that day, I notice something important. My perfect day is not built around status.

It is built around:

• health

• family

• nature

• meaningful work

• friendship

• play

• peace

• intimacy

• freedom

That is useful information. Because if I say those things matter to me, but my actual life is full of distraction, rushing, stress, doomscrolling, shallow work, and disconnection…

Then I have my answer. I need to start building my life in the direction of that vision. That’s what visualization is really for. Not escape. Direction.

This exercise is great for revealing your values and where you need further alignment.

What needs to change? I live in the home I want to live in, on the island I want to live on. I have a great relationship with my wife and kids, but I can still improve them. Distraction gets in the way. I don’t own my time. I can make seeing the sunrise, sunset, pickleball and golf a part of my day already. The issue is, I have a full time job. My time isn’t my own. So in order to make that part of my life a reality on a work day. I need to own my income. Which is why I’m doing this to begin with.

Your assignment

I want you to do this for yourself. Write out your perfect day. Not the fake version. Not the version you think you’re supposed to want. You’re not trying to impress anyone else. Your honest version.

From the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep:

Where are you?

Who are you with?

How does your body feel?

What does your home feel like?

What kind of work are you doing?

What are you eating?

What conversations are you having?

What are you NOT doing?

What kind of peace is present in that day?

Write it in detail. Make it vivid. Make it real. Make yourself feel it. Because once you can see it clearly, you can start asking better questions:

What parts of this can I begin living now?

What needs to be removed for this life to happen?

What habits are in conflict with this vision?

Your perfect day might not become your everyday life. But it can absolutely become your compass.